Lee, Terry, Stacy, Tracy, Gerry, Chris and of course, Pat. All names for boys. And girls.
Remember the Saturday Night Live skit with Julia Sweeney, where you were kept guessing "Pat's" gender? In real life, in a library where I worked, a member of the staff underwent gender reassignment. Confusing for his/her coworkers, no matter how open-minded we are. Gender so defines us that a shift takes us by surprise, upsets the assumptions we've made. Father, son, nephew, uncle, husband becomes mother, daughter, niece, aunt, wife? Makeup, clothing, hair, jewelry. What is masculine, what is feminine?
More importantly, what restroom does the transgendered choose? How do they feel in the women's restroom? In the men's facility?
Aside: 2 weeks ago, I was in the men's at Macy's in downtown HNL. The line was too, too, long, the pressure was unbearable, and an older woman volunteered to watch the door. A younger woman went in, the coast was clear, and she and I sighed with relief! A man waiting in the doorway looked stunned! Pee and run!!!
I saw this report about Thai schools providing a restroom choice for transgendered: http://www.irrawaddy.org/article.php?art_id=12812 Thai culture and society includes them in the workplace, beauty pageants and sports, a more accepting and inclusive attitude than ours.
I include this, as the related links are also very thought-provoking: http://www.thaindian.com/newsportal/world-news/thai-school-opens-transvestite-toilet-for-transgender-students_10062437.html
Our own society merely accepts transgenders superficially. We tolerate their show queen pageants, acknowledge them among our sex workers, but fail to address their needs on the most basic level.
